5 Lessons for 25

Today I turned 25. Kind of scary, kind of exciting. I actually spent the weekend sick, and slept for most of it, but it doesn’t change how thankful I am to reach another birthday. I have a few expectations for this coming year and I’m praying that the Lord will bless me with some of them.

25 has felt like a milestone for me sort of. I’m not sure why but it has a little bit. I wanted to do a post about some things I’ve learned, so here are 5 lessons for 25.


1- Your past makes you who you are now, and those who truly care will accept it
I’ve dealt with this on multiple occasions. Either a guy would change their made about me, people would make assumptions about my character, or a man would make me feel guilty & less than because of my past. It’s something that I cannot change, something that is part of who I am and what has made me who I am today. The beautiful part is that the Lord loves me anyways, and the people who truly care about you will love you anyways. They will accept your past and be thankful for the lessons it taught you. The people who don’t aren’t worth it and will have to face one day that they are not in the place to offer judgement, and they need to love like Christ.

2-Things will not always go to plan and that’s OK.
You  can read more about the plans I had dreamed for myself here, and how they didn’t go according to plan. But you know what? It’s okay, because the Lord is a beautiful writer. His stories and plans will exceed your expectations and better equip you for what He made you to do. So when things don’t go accordingly, take a breath and remember that it will all OK.

3- Set goals for yourself and don’t plan your goals around other people
There’s something wonderful about setting goals for yourself and accomplishing them on your own, especially as a woman. If I could go back and tell myself at 16 to never make plans or goals based on the boy I was dating, I would literally yell at me in my face to not do it. I dated a guy off and on for 5 years and when he joined the marines, I planned my future around that. At 17 years old, you guys! Like what is that? Needless to say, none of that ever worked out and the plans the Lord had for me were far better than the plans I had made. I made that same mistake with my last relationship and after it ended, I set a few goals for myself that only I could accomplish (with the help of the Lord, of course). So last year I bought a new car for my birthday gift to myself and my next goal is to buy a home on my own before my 26th birthday. I officially have a year to make it happen and its scary & exciting all at the same time. But I’m sure it will be a beautiful journey with the Lord in it.

4- Family is everything
I have always been a family person. I have the greatest family and my cousins are more like siblings. But I’ve learned over the last few years that it is literally everything. Almost losing my sister 10 years ago, my grandma’s stroke a year and a half ago, and my Mom’s heart attack nearly 6 years ago… it all effects you and reminds you that the Lord will call us home at any minute. Family is the place you can call home, be yourself, and who will still love you no matter what at the end of the day.

5- and even so, He is still good.
This one doesn’t need much explanation. The Lord is faithful, He is a miracle maker, and a promise keeper. Even in the bad and the ugly, He is still good and will see you through.


Saying ‘no’ in November

Happy November, friends!! A month of thankfulness, turkey & dressing, mac & cheese, and, the best of all, my birthday. 🙂 Just kidding!

I love November because it reminds everyone of all there is to be thankful for. Facebook is flooded with #30daysofthankfulness posts and picture collages of family photos. While I have an endless list of people and things I’m thankful for, I want to do something a little different this November.

This November, I’m going to say ‘no’ to a few things.

I’ve been in a place of self-doubt, feeling less-than-worthy, struggling with anxiety and depression, and drowning in the land of comparison for a while now. In 11 days, I turn 25. My life at 25 is not exactly what I dreamed of ten years ago when people would ask where I saw myself at 25 and I’ve struggled with being OK with that.

I had dreamed of being married, trying to begin a family, living in a cute little house, and being in a marketing career that I loved. I suppose that .75  out of 4 isn’t too bad, is it?

But the Lord’s plans are always better than our own, even if we don’t quite see it at the time. I believe that, though sometimes I do ask Him to speed it up a bit.

While my friends landed their dream jobs before college graduation, as they got married, and as they started having children, I sat and watched. All while entering the world of ‘dating’ again (which sucks, btw). Naturally, I was thrilled for them. I love seeing the people I love happy, it truly does bring me joy. But at the same time, it caused me to have self-doubt and the dating world didn’t help either. Dating is another story for a different time though.

So this month I’m saying no to allowing self-doubt to creep in, I’m saying no to feeling less-than, and I’m saying no to being negative. While celebrating thankfulness this month, I am choosing to say no to the things that take my thankfulness down a few notches and I invite you to join me.

What will you say ‘no’ to this month?

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